If you are reading this article it is probably because you are going through one of the hardest and most difficult times of your life.
People around you will tell you that “it’s not the end of the days”, but you know exately what you are feeling deep inside.
It seems to you that all of a sudden lights turned off, some moments you find it hard to breathe and (especially if the relationship was lasting, stable, you were living together / or family involved) it seems to you that the ground has collapsed under your feet.
All the projects, the dreams of a future together, the memories of happy moments that you thought would last forever… suddenly begin to crumble, to fade into the folds of a future that you imagined but will no longer exist.
The first thing I have to tell you is: remember that you are not alone . There will always be a family member, friend, colleague ready to listen and stand by you. Don’t close yourself in, let out all the sadness and anger you feel. Cry, scream, punch the pillow (be it very soft, please, we don’t want you to get hurt)! Nobody deserves your pain.
Let’s see together how to go through this storm that is turning your life upside down. Start from this assumption: everything happens for a reason, maybe it was time to evolve, to change (and trust me, it will be a change for the better).
Overcoming a breakup is, in effect, like grieving. According to some psychologists, in fact, there are 5 “phases” to be faced and overcome, in order to be considered cured. I will report what, in my opinion, is the clearest and most correct vision, by Dr. Gabriele Calderone .
Take some time . If you feel like (and your job allows it) to spend a whole day in bed, do it. If you can only eat ice cream, chips and pizza, go for it. If you don’t feel like eating… make an effort to do so, as your body will need even more energy during this internal struggle.
Watch your favorite TV series (” Friends ” was my lifeline when me too, like you, I went through this dark period in my life). Focus on your self-care, read the books you left on your bedside table, go out with your friends. Reconnect those relationships you “neglected” to give your partner more space (unintentionally, we all do, don’t blame yourself).
3. Don’t repress your emotions ! Please cry. Cry for as long as you want, it will make you feel better. Tears, in fact, contain substances such as proteins, hormones and potassium which, acting on the immune system, help and eliminate chemicals (toxins) that would be developing due to this “traumatic” event.
4. The pain is real (you will really feel like “your heart is breaking”), as are the mood swings. It will happen that you think that you have already overcome it, that you feel better, that you will use feelings such as anger and resentment in order not to feel sadness. But this will return to make its way in your heart and be again the dominant feeling. Don’t worry: you will see that day after day, the “no” moments will give their place to the positive ones, until they will completely disappear .
5. Avoid Ruminating : Crying over spilled milk won’t change things, keep that in mind. It will only serve to slow down your healing and overcoming process. Whether it is the case that you think you have all the responsibility for the breakup, or you lay all the blame on your partner, remember that focusing on this thought will not turn back time. Rather, think about the behaviors you will no longer accept in the future and the mistakes you will no longer want to make. Try to understand the reasons that objectively led to the end of the relationship. Write them on a piece of paper. Look for solutions or what behaviors you would like to change. You will have learned a lesson. Now keep it in your mind and move on. It will come in handy when you are ready for your next relationship.
6. Try new activities , play new sports, keep your mind busy. Do meditation (it helps so much to learn how to control our thoughts), yoga, sign up for that class you always wanted to take at the gym, or start that sport you love so much.
Any kind of physical activity, from jogging in the park to exhausting spinning classes, will help you in two ways: first, because of the release of endorphin, the happiness hormone, that occurs during physical activity, you will feel more peaceful. Second, sports activity will help you feel stronger, feel better about yourself and more confident.
In my case, the only reason that pushed me to leave the house was going to the gym. Seeing myself every day stronger also gave me a great internal motivational push (I knew I could do it, I could get out of that abyss of sadness and tears).
In this article you will find 5 books on personal growth that you absolutely must read, write them down so you don’t miss them!
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Mucha gente intentará transmitirte su miedos o convencerte de que es aburrido.
Pero no te dejes llevar por los prejuicios. Sal de tu zona de confort, descubre nuevos lugares, conoce nuevas culturas y personas que dejarán una huella en tu camino
Es la mejor manera de conocer al mundo y a tí mism@ 🫶🏼
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🇬🇧Travelling solo means independence, initiative, and growth.
Many people will try to pass you their fears to you or convince you that it is boring. But do not get carried away by prejudices. Get out of your comfort zone, discover new places, and meet new cultures and people who will leave a mark on your path.
It is the best way to know the world and yourself.
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3 países, 5 ciudades y 2 continentes (en la última foto 🫠)
Mil grandes amores ❣️
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🇮🇨 Feliz día de Canarias a todos los Canarios 🇮🇨
Tierra y pueblo maravilloso, que te acogen y te incluyen.
Donde la condición de isla desarolla fuerte el sentido de pertenencia junto al orgullo y privilegio para los que han nacido aquí 🫶🏼
Gente que nunca pierde la sonrisa, que sabe disfrutar de la naturaleza y de lo bonito que puede ofrecer.
Gracias Canarias por todo lo que has aportado a mi vida (amistades, fuerza, crecimiento, desconexión y reconexión) y espero seguir creciendo contigo 💙💚
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🇪🇸Mañana es día de Canarias 🫶🏼🇮🇨
Y estaba pensando que sería imposible resumir la belleza de todas las 8 islas en in video 🎞
Pero lo intentamos 💪🏻
Y tú ¿cuantas y cuales islas ha visitado?
Te gustaría descubrir Gran Canaria conmigo? 😃
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🇬🇧Tomorrow is Canary Islands day 🫶🏼🇮🇨
I was thinking that would be impossible to summarise the beauty of all 8 islands in a video 🎞 but we tried 💪🏻
And you, how many and which islands have you visited?
Would you like to discover Gran Canaria with me? 😃
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